Daddy Knows Best

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Month: May 2016

Kids and Shoes

What is up with putting a winter jacket on an infant but not having shoes or socks on?

You must keep feet warm, a lot of health issues occur to adults who had cold feet or something like that. Your kids must have socks and shoes on.

I know they take them off, they are kids and that’s what they do and you are the parent and you put them back on.

Keep their feet warm at all times!

How? you ask… Simple shoes with laces are great. Shoes with velcro are great and easy to put on but your kids will take them off. Shoes with laces are great because you can double tie them and they will stay on. Your kids won’t be able to take them off. They are great.

Buy shoes with laces and you will keep your kids feet warm.

Fever – 12am ER visit

So when my baby started teething, she had slight fevers so Doctor said give her some Tylenol so it was simple.

Then my daughter went to Daycare and the fevers really happened.

So here is the story…

My daughter feels warm so I give her some Tylenol before bed. Around midnight, she wakes up screaming, so I go and check on her. She is on fire burning up (103 degree temp), I’m freaking out so I take her to ER.

The first thing the Doctor asks me why are you here, I tell her my baby has a fever and she goes and so why did you come. I wanted to smack the doctor but I couldn’t so I said she has a fever what do I do. The doctor says your daughter is sick so that is why she has a fever, I’m like I know that, what do I do. She is like fevers don’t hurt babies so you have nothing to worry about just give her Tylenol.

ER is a waste of time. The only time you go to ER is if the baby isn’t moving (lethargic). Another thing I learned from ER is how much Tylenol to give because it is based on the baby’s weight and I found out I wasn’t giving enough and that is why fever wasn’t going away. So ask your pediatrician how many ml to give per dose. i.e. 19lbs is 3.75ml Tylenol

Daycare

Eventually you will have to put your kid into daycare.

We choice the only daycare in our area that sends out pictures of our child during the day, plus it had the warmest feel to it. Trust your gut when choosing a Daycare.

LISTEN UP! Your kid will be sick pretty much from the beginning. Doctor says it lasts for the first year of daycare. The immune system of the child has to get used all the new germs/viruses and there is nothing you can do about it. Be ready to stay home with the child even though you enrolled her into daycare.

Water Babies

When my daughter turned 6 months, we thought it would be cool to teach my daughter to swim. It didn’t turn out so well.

She hates swimming very much now that she even won’t even bath without crying.

Too much under water dunking, scared her and she even got a a really nasty diaper rash from the pool.

You got to shower the baby right after the pool, which was hard for me to avoid the rash.

Be cautious.

Pacifier / Binky

My thoughts on the Pacifier…

My wife and I didn’t use one until my daughter started teething. They will create a bad habit if you give them at the beginning of birth. When my daughter put her hands in her mouth I would tell her “no” and and took her hand out of her mouth.

When she started teething we gave her a pacifier and she used it as something to chew on and that was it. She is about 10 months now and she doesn’t even want it anymore.

If you never introduce it they will never know about it.

Nap Time

My baby slept twice a day once I got her on a schedule. She would sleep 2-3 hours at a time and still sleep 9 hours at night. Babies need rest so they can be calm and grow remember that.

How do you get a baby to sleep? It’s easy, you put them in their crib and you close the door. My baby slept after lunch (around noon) and after dinner around (4pm). I would give her her bottle and then put her to sleep.

I could tell my kid was tried because she bags under her eyes would turn red or she would be cranky or she be just rubbing her eyes.

When you put them in their crib sometimes they cry and don’t go to bed all the time. Let them cry for 5-10 minutes if the cry gets louder instead of fading away then go check on them but again let the scream a little bit for you go in there.

Remember babies like it warm and don’t sleep well in the cold so make sure you cover them with a warm blanket.

Also because it’s nap time doesn’t mean you have to be quiet and make no noise, I would talk normally and play TV and my kid got used to it so now she can sleep almost through anything.

Baby Screaming

Baby screaming is not always a bad thing. you can’t give in and pick them up every time they scream sometimes you let scream for 5-10 minutes. You eventually will know what is fake crying and real crying/screaming. My kid would start slow, intermediate cries which I knew were fake and the loud and consistent crying was when I picked up my daughter and picked her up to calm her down.

Health babies cry for food, wet diaper or crankiness. I had my daughter on schedule about around 3 months so I knew if it was time for food or nap time ( she slept twice a day).

I tried not to change that schedule because come weekends and you things change you will have a cranky baby. Remember a happy sleeps and eats and does some tummy time and that is all they do for first 6 months.

 

Tummy Time

The Pediatrician said baby needs tummy time. So I did it. Yes, the kid screamed and didn’t like it and so forth but it’s like an adult going to the gym and working out. You just have to do it over and over to get stronger.

You get the baby’s favorite toy and you try to have the baby play with it while they are on their tummy. Put a blanket on the floor and let them do it, from 2 months on they should be doing tummy once a day for at least 5 minutes. Every week increase the length of time. Because the baby is crying that doesn’t mean you pick them up, let me cry, eventually the baby will be doing 30+ minutes and then they will roll over and then crawling.

Remember you are the parent, you know more than the baby.

Breastfeeding

Breastfeeding is a must! You may be the stay-at-home dad but you still need to wear the pants in the relationship. I made my wife breastfeed, it was hard and painful and all that, but the baby needs it. The first month the baby eats every 2-3 hours and I was there almost every feeding holding my wife and my daughter’s hand because it is a team effort.

When my wife went to work she couldn’t produce enough to bottle so she breastfeed morning, lunch and dinner. During lunch, I would bring my daughter to my wife’s work and she would breastfeed at work. My wife was full of milk anyways so it helped her, by bring the kid to her. Where there is a will, there is a way!

My wife breastfed for 3 months. I recommend anywhere from 3 to 6 months and that is what the baby needs for health and brain development. After 6 months, I personally don’t think the baby needs it anymore and it doesn’t have any affect on the baby brain development as some so called Doctors would say.

My baby was eating baby food at 4 months, she wanted to sit at the table and be a part of the fun. She wanted to eat so called adult food. Now imagine if I stopped her and said “sorry breast milk only” well than I think that’s where I’m slowing her brain development from going to the next level so to speak.

Breastfeeding is important and a must, but too much can can the opposite effect and slow down the brain development in my opinion.

The 1st Month

The first month is the hardest and it literally gets easier every month after that. Be ready for no sleep the first month. The baby has to eat every 2 hours so you are not getting any sleep for the first month whatsoever. My wife breastfeed our child and so when she got up, I got up because she made me but that’s another story. My wife would hold one of my hands and my baby would hold my other hand. It was tiring and if I had to go work after that I would of hurt someone so try to take the first month off if you can.

Breastfeeding is very important and for the first 3 weeks that is the only think the baby can have. Now once we introduced formula in the 4th week, my child slept through most of the night. My daughter started with 6 hours then went to 8 hours then to 9-10 hours a night. And that is why it gets easier every month after the first month. So beware and be warned, sleep when the baby sleeps and you won’t sleep the first month.

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